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There comes a point in each of our lives when we realize we’ve been demanding from others what we should’ve been offering ourselves all along: grace.

Grace, the act of undeserved kindness, patience, and forgiveness, is a gift we frequently expect from the world but rarely extend to ourselves. We strive for approval and forgiveness from others while forgetting that true growth begins within us.

Our lives are made up of many moments, both good and bad, that come together to create a beautiful tapestry. Even the difficult and painful experiences add to the overall artwork of our lives. To create the most important parts of our story, it is important to acknowledge and accept our flaws, faults, and weaknesses.

Consider a time when you were at your lowest, crushed beneath the weight of your failures or struggles. Perhaps you felt lost or alone, wondering why no one reached out to help you. In those moments, we long for grace, for an open heart willing to forgive us. However, we frequently forget that the most healing touch is our own. We must first learn to forgive ourselves and apply self-compassion to heal our own wounds.

Imagine if you could have showered yourself with grace during those times of adversity and miserable conditions. What a game changer it could have been! When we offer the gift of grace to ourselves, we liberate ourselves from the prison of guilt and self-condemnation. We accept our humanity, accept our flaws, and open the road for progress and self-love.

Something wonderful happens when we learn to offer ourselves grace. We no longer hold people hostage because we are not being who we should be for ourselves. We liberate them from the constraints of our expectations, and in turn, we liberate ourselves.

The road to self-forgiveness is not an easy one. It’s a twisting journey with highs and lows, moments of clarity followed by periods of doubt. However, this path teaches us¬†how to nurture our spirit, create resilience, and accept ourselves despite our imperfections and paradoxes.

Remember that you are not alone in your quest for self-forgiveness and grace. We are all fellow explorers on this path, each with our own set of difficulties and challenges. Reach out, tell your experience, and give others the grace you wish you had gotten in your darkest hour.

You may say, “But I haven’t received enough grace to know how to give it.” I encourage you to flip that narrative. Give you the grace you needed in your darkest hour, whether you received it or not. In other words, when we give more grace than we receive, we not only help ourselves recover, but we also help others heal.

We are more than just ordinary people on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual creatures on a human path, and grace serves as our compass. We open the doors to our own hearts when we forgive ourselves. And when our hearts are open, we can connect with others more profoundly, form meaningful connections, and experience the true essence of love.

Begin this journey with grace in your heart and forgiveness of yourself as your compass. Because every stride in grace leads to a more compassionate, loving, and forgiving world. Let this be your mantra: I will give myself the grace I needed, and I will lavishly and tirelessly extend it to others. For in grace, we find love; and in love, we find ourselves.